Human -- for better or worse


Op-Ed - Los Angeles Times - Sunday, January 6, 2013
Human -- for better or worse
Scientists examining our moral core study intuition and calculated analysis to try to determine whether we are naturally good or bad.
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Op-Ed - Los Angeles Times - Sunday, January 6, 2013
Scientists examining our moral core study intuition and calculated analysis to try to determine whether we are naturally good or bad.
One of the reasons that Deb Boelkes and I felt compelled to create the Heartfelt Leadership global community is that selfishness and self-centeredness appears to be a malady that is gripping more of the world.
It is also one of the reasons my co-author, Dr. John Ullmen, and I decided to write REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In (go to that link for some special free resources to coincide with our launch and ways to learn more) which was published today.
If you want to really win friends and influence people at work:
The Democrats and the Republicans are not enemies; they are merely opponents.
In fact, the Democrats and Republicans who have been “Washingtonized” for more than a couple terms have more in common with their fellow politicians than they do with their constituents.
I am a founding member of the "dread going/glad I went" club of socially-shy people.
I am also a "role-specific extrovert." That means that when the occasion calls for me to be "out there" I strap on some courage and give it my best shot, but it doesn't come naturally.
Disappointment is merely an unmet expectation; it’s only when you imbue it with negative meanings that it becomes painful.
World English Dictionary
dys- prefix
- diseased, abnormal, or faulty: dysentery; dyslexia
- difficult or painful: dysuria, dysthymia
- unfavorable or bad: dylogistic
[via Latin from Greek dus- ]
How many people do you know that handle disappointment well?
I recently returned from my first trip to India where I spoke on communication and conflict mastery in Mumbai, Bangalore and Delhi. I was told the trip would be life changing. It was.
At least with the people I met, hidden agendas were nowhere to be found. Even the beggars and people who pushed their products, monkeys, cobras and small children on their arms on me had no hidden agendas. What a contrast from looking into another American's eyes and nearly always sensing some personal agenda and effort to manipulate or at least maneuver you to get their way.