Being Authentic - Am I for real? I'd like your help

Am I for real? I'd like your help.

Being authentic is very important to me, because when you're authentic, it makes it easier for people to trust you. When you don't appear authentic, it's tough to come off as heartfelt. Even though I may seem "composed" in the following videos, since I'm shy, there is more than a little anxiety brewing within. And anxiety can make me (and everyone) inauthentic. So my question for you is do I come across as authentic and do you have any tips for further squelching the anxiety within? (That will help reduce the number of times I have to visit the restroom before every appearance I make).

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"Is Daddy an A-hole?"

Six year old (precocious) daughter: Is daddy an a-hole?

Mother: Why would you say that?

Daughter: He screams at Joey's soccer game and sometimes gets kicked out.

Mother: He's very competitive, which is why he is successful.

Daughter: When he reads me a bedtime story, he's always checking his BlackBerry.

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Human -- for better or worse

Op-Ed - Los Angeles Times - Sunday, January 6, 2013

Human -- for better or worse

Scientists examining our moral core study intuition and calculated analysis to try to determine whether we are naturally good or bad.

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2013 - The Year of Living Unselfishly

One of the reasons that Deb Boelkes and I felt compelled to create the Heartfelt Leadership global community is that selfishness and self-centeredness appears to be a malady that is gripping more of the world. 

It is also one of the reasons my co-author, Dr. John Ullmen, and I decided to write REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In (go to that link for some special free resources to coincide with our launch and ways to learn more) which was published today.

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New Year's Resolutions - 20 Ways to Win Friends and Influence People

If you want to really win friends and influence people at work:

1. Be on time and prepared for meetings. That alone will make you shine like a star.
2. Turn in work ahead of schedule. Forget procrastination, get things done early.
3. Turn in work error free. I need to practice this one if you haven’t noticed that my columns invariably have some typo or grammatical errors.

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FOCB - The Elephant in the Middle of the Fiscal Rift

Just because people buy you, doesn't mean they own you

The Democrats and the Republicans are not enemies; they are merely opponents.

In fact, the Democrats and Republicans who have been “Washingtonized” for more than a couple terms have more in common with their fellow politicians than they do with their constituents.

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Overcoming Holiday Shyness - Be More Interested than Interesting

I am a founding member of the "dread going/glad I went" club of socially-shy people.

I am also a "role-specific extrovert." That means that when the occasion calls for me to be "out there" I strap on some courage and give it my best shot, but it doesn't come naturally.

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"Bah Humbug" Prevention

It’s the most terrible time of the year

Disappointment is merely an unmet expectation; it’s only when you imbue it with negative meanings that it becomes painful.

World English Dictionary

dys-        prefix

1. diseased, abnormal, or faulty: dysentery; dyslexia
2. difficult or painful: dysuria, dysthymia
3. unfavorable or bad: dylogistic

[via Latin from Greek dus- ]

How many people do you know that handle disappointment well?

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