Does Your Boss Manage Up or Down?

Does your boss "kiss up" to make themself successful or "kiss down" make you more successful?

About thirty years ago when I was in full time practice as a clinical psychiatrist I would occasionally refer some of my patients to a well-known university psychiatric hospital for in-patient hospitalization.  It was rare at that time to get a “thank you” from that hospital for the referral and on many occasions they would keep the patient after discharge and refer them to one of their own clinics without contacting me (they have since changed their ways).

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To Forgive or Not to Forgive, That is the Question

for-give-ness: Pronunciation: \-ˈgiv-nəs\ – noun – The act of letting go of one’s anger towards someone for having hurt, wounded, betrayed, injured or harmed one. Forgiving does not necessarily mean forgetting the harm someone has done, your disappointment in them or giving them a second chance to harm you, but it does mean letting go of the anger one attaches to the hurtful incident and of begrudging the person for it.

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(How and Why) The Truth Shall Set You Free

 How the Truth Sets You Free

She: I don’t know if can ever forgive, stop resenting, trust and give you another chance after lying to me.

He: I understand and accept that.

She: How can you understand and accept that?

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Leadership: Facebook, Apple, Costco - Three Mini Case Studies

Opportunistic - Mark Zuckerberg, Facebook
Visionary - Steve Jobs, Apple
Heartfelt - Jim Sinegal, Costco

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Authentic (a.k.a. Heartfelt) vs. Inauthentic (a.k.a. Heart Less*) Storytelling

Authentic = Being emotionally in touch with a story that serves the higher purpose of inspiring others to be and do more than they thought they could be or do

Inauthentic = Being emotionally in touch with selling and motivating others to serve your personal agenda by buying your products and services

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Forget Questions, Fill in the Blanks

With questions, people feel you are talking at them;
with fill-in-the-blanks*, people feel you are talking with them.

Whenever you ask questions (which you believe communicates a sincere interest), it causes many people to feel challenged and that they’d better give the right answer or else they will feel wrong or stupid. The reason for this is that people have flash backs from times they were put on the spot by teachers, parents, coaches, etc. that didn’t feel positive.

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Mrs. Obama: Seek Out Those With Different Beliefs

From NPR

RICHMOND, Ky. (AP) — First lady Michelle Obama urged Eastern Kentucky University graduates on Saturday night to reach out to people with different political beliefs, saying the country would benefit from the conversations.

"If you're a Democrat, spend some time talking to a Republican," Mrs. Obama told about 600 education, business and technology graduates at the third and final commencement ceremony of the day. "And if you're a Republican, have a chat with a Democrat. Maybe you'll find some common ground, maybe you won't."

The first lady suggested that they visit senior centers to benefit from the experiences of people with plenty of "life experience under their belts." She also pointed them to religious congregations different than their own, saying they might hear something in a sermon "that stays with you." And she predicted they would learn something if they reached out "with an open mind and an open heart."

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Going Heartfelt in Corpus Christi, TX

Heartfelt Leaders come in all shapes and sizes.

(CBS News) CORPUS CHRISTI, Texas -- This is the story of two boys who go to the same high school in Corpus Christi, Texas - but live in opposite worlds.

Tyrell Clay is the football quarterback at Miller High School. More popular than free pizza - everyone loves Tyrell.

Adam Chadwick, on the other hand, dwells well down the social ladder. Picked on and called names - he's learned to keep to himself.

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