Why Most People Don't Keep New Year's Resolutions

If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail - Ben Franklin

Show me someone who doesn't keep or even make New Year's Resolutions and I'll show you someone who will not follow plans and much less, often resists even making them.

If most people would agree with Franklin's quote at least intellectually, why then do they resist following a plan and in many cases even making one?

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7 Tips for Keeping Your New Year's Resolutions

1. BE REALISTIC. Don’t confuse reasonable expectations with realistic expectations. Reasonable means “makes sense.” Realistic means “likely to happen.” It may be reasonable to stop smoking, start a new diet and begin exercising, but it may not be realistic to change all of them at once.

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12 Years a Slave - Why movies make us cry

I recently saw the wonderful movie, 12 Years a Slave, directed by Steve McQueen.  It is a true story and in it free negro, Solomon Northrup, played by Chiwetel Ejiofor is living in Saratoga Springs, NY where he is taken to Washington, D.C. under false pretenses, kidnapped and then sold into slavery.

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New Year's Resolutions - 20 Ways to Win Friends and Influence People at Work

If you want to really win friends and influence people at work:

1. Be on time and prepared for meetings. That alone will make you shine like a star.
2. Turn in work ahead of schedule. Forget procrastination, get things done early
3. Turn in work error free. I need to practice this one if you haven’t noticed that my columns invariably have some typo or grammatical errors.

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On Vacation? Teach Your Children Well

If you give a child a fish, you feed them for a day;
if you teach a child to fish, you feed them for a lifetime;
but if you teach a child to learn, you feed them for a lifetime
and they don’t have to just eat fish.
- Tim Gallwey, creator of the Inner Game series

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Overcoming Holiday Shyness

"How did you FEEL?"

"What did you THINK?"

"What did you DO?"

I am a Role Specific Extrovert. That means that when the occasion calls for me to be “out there” I strap on some courage and give it my best shot, but it doesn’t come naturally.

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How to Ask for a Raise

Show Me the Money

How to Ask for a Raise

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How to Turn Disappointment into Giving Thanks

Disappointment is merely an unmet expectation,
it’s only when you imbue it with negative meanings that it becomes painful

World English Dictionary

dys-

-        prefix

1. diseased, abnormal, or faulty: dysentery; dyslexia
2. difficult or painful: dysuria, dysthymia
3. unfavorable or bad: dylogistic

[via Latin from Greek dus- ]

How many people do you know that handle disappointment well?

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